The Hookup is A Set Up For A Set Back

Dr. Willie Jolley says that a setback is a setup for a comeback and that same principle applies here. Once you have received your hook-up you will soon learn that your level of understanding and your level of growth is lacking depth.
I’ve blogged about it and I wrote about it in my book “Radiate the Brain & Change the Game”…if you are looking for the hook up to get you by…it may serve you, but only for a brief period of time.

 
The quickest path to any direction is a straight line, and the best way to learn something is directly from the source. When we include shortcuts or hookups we prevent ourselves from learning and appreciating the entire lesson.

 
Success isn’t only about achieving the goal, it’s mainly (from my perspective) about the learned lessons that you acquire along the way. It may be difficult to grasp this concept when you are in immediate need of a thing (money or widget), but that will be one of the best lessons that you learn.

 
There may also be a certain level of pride and integrity that is acquired when you take all of the steps on your path to achievement. Don’t mistake a quick fix for the solution…often times it is not. Once you have learned through experience what it takes and what it took, you have the opportunity to repeat this effort whenever you need to.

 
When you have relied on the hook up you are not only relying on other people to make the difference in your life, but you are allowing your success to lay in their hands also. That is not a good position to be in. Now imagine having a need, having it met, and the next time you have that very same need you rely on Mr. Hook up and he doesn’t come or is not able to provide the particular service that you need. Once again, that is not a good position to be in. Give a man a fish and he’ll eat for a day, teach a man to fish and he can eat for a lifetime!
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LEANING IN

Lean in to what turns you on. Lean in to what makes you strong. When you find that special something, don’t take it lightly because it can be a lifetime difference maker. Although we live our lives for ourselves, we also live it for those around us.

 

The people that we know that have a vested interest in our lives are key. In many ways they keep us focused based on familiarity. Their mere presence can be our guideline. We’ll also find that we are the leaders in their lives and we are setting the example for them. Why simply because they watch and or follow us.

We will also find that we set either a positive or negative example with people that we don’t have a personal relationship with. We may potentially become their role models from afar. One day we may learn that we have helped them without lifting a finger.

 

When you lean in you are exhibiting focus, intensity, purpose and a sense of stickitivity. When you are leaning in nothing else matters as much as your reason for being caught up in that purpose.

 

Make it count! Most people do not complete or finish things in their lives. Make your life and your stance matter more than anything else. Just lean in! http://bit.ly/1jumt2O

 

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YOU DON’T KNOW

Sometimes we simply do not know. We don’t know how something works, we don’t know why it’s that way, and we don’t know how to change it. There’s nothing wrong with not knowing. It’s just that at some point you need to learn how to change your level of awareness or intellect.

When we are exposed to the same treatment or experiences we have to realize that it’s up to us to modify or flat out stop those things from happening when they’re negative and may harm others. Those lessons give us the experience to know what to do, or what not to do.

The key is to take negative situations and create a 180 degree response. The change from what is to what should be may not be quick, but it’s better slow than non-existent. That in itself will show and prove that you have what it takes to make good decisions. That decision can possibly become a benefit to you and to others.

Learning the process of becoming a good decision maker can make for a happy and successful personal or business career. In addition there’s another reason to not use “I don’t know”. We have to eliminate excuses.

Today information is available at your fingertips. It’s available on your cell phone, on your tablet, and on your computer. We should always be aware of the resources available to us. In many cases people think that as an Alternative Recourse Expert things are sophisticated, but it’s really a common sense approach. Just as someone helped me, it afforded me the opportunity and the ability to help myself first then on to helping others.

So in closing, whatever you don’t know should and could be short lived. Look for those common scenarios and hurtles as the signs of what you need to tackle and make your mental 180 degree turn, and change your circumstances in the process!

 

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YOUR GIFT

We are all special. We have gifts, talents and abilities that are waiting to be used. It’s up to us to learn or identify what those gifts are. We are able to learn those gifts under various circumstances.

Some people have been dialed in all of their lives. Their personality and character is so closely aligned with their purpose that we would have known all along that they were destined to become an accountant, carpenter athlete, or artist.
The breakdown of others varies also. The guy/gal that has worked all of their life, but woke up to realize that have an empty existence. That person has to come to a point where they will either attach themselves to a growth component in life or they will remain the same for the rest of their life.

Whether I have described your scenario or not, you must understand that your gift is yours. It is designed for you and nobody else can claim it. However, if you don’t discover it, use it appreciate, and respect it…you can lose it. You can never take your skill, gift, or talent for granted.
I did that with music after a lifetime of singing performances only to find that I was no longer able to hit the high note. It can be a crushing blow. It can even be mentally paralyzing. I guess my point is we have to learn to be dialed in. We need to realize that there is much value in sacrifice.

No matter which path you choose, there is one thing that needs to be understood. You have to treat others respectfully and equally! Just because you may have found your gift, if doesn’t put you above other people. There few exceptions in life where you may get a pass because of how special you are, but we never know if we will be granted that exception. As the saying goes “to whom much is given much is expected in return”.

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100% SABOTAGE

 

Many of us don’t mean to do it, but we sabotage ourselves, relationships, careers and future life prospects based on trust issues. And as a result, we subconsciously look at ourselves as underachievers, or not being able to succeed at a given task. We simply don’t trust ourselves. We don’t trust that we have the ability to achieve.

We then at times make a halfhearted attempt at trying to achieve a goal (job, business, etc.) and since we are not giving our all we fail. Many times we feel that we are not worthy and we expect errors on our journey until they appear. Then you get a false sense of satisfaction that you’re right.

In order to overcome or succeed you have to fight mentally. You have to find a certain something within you that matters more than almost anything you know.
Slowly and surely If you remain consistent you will beat the demon that sabotages you. You will begin to see life a new and the world will open up to you!

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Vulnerability

Vulnerability is uncomfortable, but it’s normal. When you work against your discomfort you gain strength. The strength you gain turns into knowledge and that knowledge turns into wisdom.

The growth process is not an easy one to endure, but it’s simple when you accept it. True growth takes place one second at a time and one experience at a time, so learn to embrace it.

 

In order to be a complete you, there will be sacrifice. Do not expect to have a great meal and your favorite dessert every night of the week. To get the job done you must be willing to lose sleep.

When you embrace your vulnerability you will find the ability to change, convert, or transform an essential aspect to your life’s growth.

Sir Charles Cary, Alternative Recourse Expert
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BE YOURSELF

Nobody should live his or her life as a copy. It’s great to be inspired by others and to have mentors, but you have to be you. Your personality is as unique as your fingerprints. We all have found favor with entertainers, athletes and celebrities, but they are getting pay and recognition for who they are and what they do. Impersonators and impressionist have to have multiple characters in their arsenal and they have to be good. So how many people do you need to be in order to get your just do.  You only need to be yourself, and be the best at what you are known for.

 

I think it’s smart to follow the process, but win lose or draw we need to look within and find that signature sound, that signature voice or move that makes us appreciated. There is much merit in the way you tell the story. In fact there is a market for almost everything and everybody. Understand that, there is someone waiting to hear your message the way that you tell it.

 

While we are in search of success, realize that success is measurable. The more you mature and develop the more you design and define your success! So, as the saying goes…”be yourself, everybody else is already taken” Learn more about transformation and being your best you! http://bit.ly/1jumt2O  Get the FREE report: The Cure 4 Today‘s Professional! http://bit.ly/U5S8P8

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WHAT IT TAKES!

True transformation isn’t easy. It takes awhile to realize that the change needed is real, and that it’s achievable. Many people think about it and even know that it’s needed, but won’t muster the challenge to initiate the variables to achieve success!

 

First you must acknowledge it, and mentally position yourself to realize how important it is, and figure out what are the steps to actualize it.  The power of the human mind can be amazing when it is coupled with focus. As the saying goes, if you can see it, and you can believe it, you can achieve it!

 

Second, in addition to making the idea real in your mind, it will be necessary to change your patterns. Consider the people that you surround yourself with daily. Are they positive or negative? Are they the type of people that you can learn from and that can teach you things? If not you’ll want to make a conscious effort to be around people that are smarter, and more established that you are. It will also cause you to consider your activities. Are you playing video games every day, are you gossiping with the girls, or spending the bulk of your time on social media? You will want to adopt mentally stimulating activities such as reading books that teach you personal development principles or professional development principles. You may also want to consider webinars that you can participate on from the comforts of your home.

 

Third, where do you spend your time? The places that you invest your time is extremely important. Are you going you happy hour, or buffets? That can be ok, but not if you have a goal to extend your education, start you’re business, or get a promotion that will not help you.If you are going to go to happy hour’s or buffets, you should do it with the intention on networking! Additionally, it can be stimulating to go to libraries, or business districts versus hanging out at home or going to the movies every weekend.

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YOU’RE NOT

You’re not going to get ahead in life because everyone deserves an opportunity. You’re not going to get ahead in life because ladies go first.  You’re not going to get ahead in life because you’re younger, faster, stronger,smarter or more attractive.

 

Let me explain. These things may contribute to your advancement and in many cases, they may seem overwhelmingly or obviously the reason for your advancement in life, but it’s not true.

 

Every now and then the above-mentioned strengths / attributes will apply solely to a small percentage of an individuals success.  However, as I previously mentioned it’s usually only an additive.

 

I know for a fact that nothing in life is singular and everything is compounded.  Things don’t just happen, they happen as a result of multiple instances or occurrences! Transformation is an option for everyone, but everyone doesn’t realize that it’s obtainable.  Some people don’t even know it’s available.

 

There’s a saying that states we are products of our environment.  I have to admit from my own experience it’s true. Whether you are successful or poor, in most cases you are just that.  A mere product of your environment and that means that what ever you see or experience will more than likely determine how you turn out.

 

 

Now, knowing that the human brain and certain experiences can significantly change a person’s outcome.  For example…look at the kid that was teased as a child and grows up to be a law enforcement officer.  The only problem there will be if the person abuses their authority.

 

You have to be conscious of your upbringing and your surroundings. If you don’t like something, you have the option to change.  If it separates you from the pack or what we know as the norm…you will have to ask yourself can you live with it. Is being different (better)worth your lifestyle or your sanity? After you answer yourself all bets should be off! Just go for it!

 

Remember, you’re not going to learn everything from your parents, you’re not going to learn everything from your teachers, and you’re not going to learn everything from your spouse.

 

We learn and become great as a result of an accumulation of life changes, challenges and experiences.  You will never be the same person you were as a child and maybe not even as a teen.  Life is transformation!

 

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STAGES OF TRANSFORMATION

Stage One: Avoidance or denial

 

Stage Two: Surrender to the reality

 

Stage Three: The psychological work in dismantles the old self.

 

Stage Four: Incubation, which is a period of suspended animation. There is a shutting down, a time of confusion, quiet, and chaos sets in. Jung said chaos is a necessary ingredient for psychological transformation—he was right. This is the stage it is experienced.

 

Stage Five: Rebirth, a view of the new self begins. It’s still uncomfortable because it is unknown. The person sees the world differently, engages the world differently, and determines how they will permit the world to engage them, which is of course–differently. The authentic self begins, and the chaos subsides.

 

Stage Six: This is an assimilation of the new self. The old way is destroyed, and the new way is embraced, while the old way becomes a distant memory. There is an overwhelming sense of peace that sets in and a sense of unbelievable self-acceptance. There is this previously inconceivable sense of “okay-ness” that is embraced.

 

 

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